Love Letters…I Dare You!
A few years ago a Christian movie came out called Fireproof. This movie was about a fireman and his wife who were going through what could have been the end of their marriage. The movie uses an experiment, a 40-day commitment meant to “fireproof” a marriage. It is based upon a book called The Love Dare. The Love Dare is broken down into daily actions because the author understands that actions mean more than words. You can say “I love you” hundreds of times, but in absence of action, it doesn’t mean much. So, the author gives couples things to do along with their words. You do need to let your other half know how you feel. Communication is everything. Shutting down and not communicating will kill a relationship. Actions and words go together. So, what can I do here?
Love notes! Recently, I could tell that my husband just wasn’t himself. He was overly cranky. He was snappy. It wasn’t anything going on at home, so it had to be work. He was getting home very late. He goes to work in early, early morning and he gets home after dark, but lately he was getting home even later than normal. He wasn’t making it home to eat dinner. So, I decided one afternoon while I was ironing his shirts that I would put a short love note in one of his shirts. I had no idea when he would wear the shirt, but I would risk it. He isn’t a lovey, dovey kind of guy either so, I kept it simple. Just a short, “We love you and we appreciate what you do to provide for our family every day.” It wasn’t for another couple of weeks before he wore the shirt, and I had actually forgotten about it when I got a text message one morning from him. He almost never text messages me during the day. He was so happy to get the note that morning. It made his day. He told me that it was everything to him to get that note, that it was the reason he worked so hard for our family so that I could be home for our daughter, to be a homeschool mom.
Of course, love notes are not a new idea, but most of us don’t think about writing them anymore, and nothing is more romantic and emotional as a handwritten letter. Some of the most famous love letters are just so wonderful to read and they give us inspiration to write our own to our beloveds. For example, check out Country Living Online at https://www.countryliving.com/life/inspirational-stories/g4061/famous-love-letters/ for some wonderful examples of historical love letters. Another one many Southerners might find fascinating is this one from Country Living, https://www.countryliving.com/life/entertainment/a37770/johnny-cash-love-letter-to-june-carter/, the love letters of Johnny Cash to his wife June.
Here’s the point, life can take us over and we forget that it is the little things that keep us going. A short note to say, “Hey honey, I love you and I appreciate you,” or, “Hey sexy, you look awesome today.” It goes a mile!! When a Mom is strung out with three little ones, toys everywhere, dogs, chaos, food everywhere, more than she feels like she can handle, that second one will make her feel like a million bucks! She may laugh at it, but she will feel appreciated and that is what she really needs; and Dad needs it too. We need to feel loved and we need to feel appreciated, because in life, if we don’t get it, we begin to feel overwhelmed, under appreciated, and, eventually, unloved. All it takes is two to three minutes to write a few words. Put it under a pillow, in shirt pocket, in jean pocket, or in the change drawer of your car where you grab for that change when you get that coffee every day.
And hey! Don’t forget those children who can read. They like those notes, too! Put a quick note in a lunch box or a binder pocket.
Have a fabulous week!!